10 Purposes of Marriage

It has always been true that as the family goes, so goes the culture. We shouldn’t be surprised then that our culture is in disarray. People don’t value marriage today much less see its significance. And with the decline of marriage, so too has the culture fallen into shambles. In view of this, Christians must continually be reminded of the blessing and purpose of marriage. Marriage was designed by God and is hugely consequential. If we are going to see renewal and revival in the church and in the culture as a whole, it must start with the family. It must start with husband and wife being faithful and obedient to God’s Word.

Here are 10 purposes of marriage. I will let the Scriptures speak for themselves.

  1. Companionship: “Then the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him” (Genesis 2:18). “Do two walk together, unless they have agreed to meet?” (Amos 3:3).


  1. Enjoyment: “Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth” (Proverbs 5:18). “Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled” (Hebrews 13:4).


  1. Completeness: “And the rib that the Lord God had taken from the man He made into a woman and brought her to the man. Then the man (Adam) said, “This at last is bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:22-24).


  1. Fruitfulness or Procreation: “And God blessed them. And God said to them, Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it.” (Genesis 1:28). “Blessed is the man who fears the Lord, who greatly delights in his commandments! His offspring will be mighty in the land; the generation of the upright will be blessed” (Psalm 112:1-2).


  1. Protection: The husband is to protect the wife by laying down his life for her. “Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). The wife is to protect the home. “Older women likewise are to be reverent in behavior, not slanderers or slaves to much wine. They are to teach what is good, and so train the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled” (Titus 2:3-5).


  1. Typify Christ and the Church: Marriage is to be a human picture or object lesson of the divine relationship between Christ and believers. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife and the two shall become one flesh. This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church” (Ephesians 5:31-32).


  1. Sanctification: “For this is the will of God, your sanctification” (1 Thessalonians 4:3) It will be readily acknowledged that living in close proximity with another person has a way of exposing our warts and bumps and bruises (in short, our sin). We see our own pride and selfishness in ways we can’t when isolated. God can and will use this to make us more like Jesus and to give us victory over indwelling sin.


  1. Support and Trust: “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil….a threefold cord is not quickly broken” (Ecclesiastes 4:9,12). “An excellent wife who can find? She is far more precious than jewels. The heart of her husband trusts in her, and he will have no lack of gain” (Proverbs 31:10-11).


  1. Mutual Honor and Respect: “Husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel” (1 Peter 3:7). “Let each one of you love his wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband” (Ephesians 5:33).


  1. The Glory of God: “For from him and through him and to him are all things. To him be the glory forever. Amen” (Romans 11:36). This is the goal of everything, including marriage.

He Gives and Takes Away

August 1st 2012 was a monumental day for our family. We welcomed little John David Daniel into the world – all 9 pounds 8 ounces of him. Truly, he is a precious gift from God.

Less than 24 hours later (19 to be exact) our family said goodbye to our dear Grandmother, Theresa Solinger, who passed away at the age of 87. As I reflected on life and death and all that had happened in such a short time, a verse from the book of Job came to mind. “The Lord gave, and the Lord has taken away; blessed be the name of the Lord.” (Job 1:21)

Everyone who knew Grandma knew she was a special person. Grandma T (as the twins called her) loved people and I don’t think I’ve ever met a more generous person. She was a hard worker, getting up at 5am each morning to clean the house and get a good start on the day. She was also a good cook, often having family and friends over for hearty meals. There is so much more that could be said about the character of Grandma, but I will stop there.

Grandma lived a good life, almost making it to age 88. She married Max Solinger not long after he got back from serving in World War 2. If you do the math, that works out to 66 years of marriage. God gave Grandma a long life and a long marriage and even though we are grieving right now, we are thankful for the years we had with her. Grandma left us with many wonderful memories.

One of the primary attributes of God is His sovereignty. As you read through the Bible, you encounter this theme again and again – God rules and governs the world. So when we say “God is in control,” it is just one way of affirming the sovereignty of God. This works itself out in a number of different ways including life and death. God is the giver of life (1 Timothy 6:13) and dare I say, the taker of life (Psalm 139:16). Last week we witnessed both in the birth of baby John and the death of Grandma Theresa.

A few days ago, we bought some muffins from a local bakery. In the midst of munching, I noticed a bible verse on the muffin box – Revelation 4:11. “Worthy are you, our Lord and God, to receive glory and honor and power, for you created all things, and by your will they existed and were created.” This is a powerful little verse with a simple application. We were created by God and for God. We were created to bring God glory and serve Him with our lives.

I don’t know how many years God will give John David Daniel. It is our prayer that no matter how many years he has, that God would be glorified through his life and that he would be a worshipper of the One True God. While we love him to death and think the world of him, we know that he is a sinner, and must believe in Jesus and repent of his sin, just like everyone else.

Friend, I don’t know how much longer you will live. Even though you might think you have many more years, today could be your last day (Luke 12:20). Apart from faith in Jesus Christ, you will enter into a lost eternity. You will have no hope of heaven and no hope of eternal life. So don’t wait another day to give your life to Christ.

Allow me to leave you with a closing thought on the brevity of life from the pen of King David:

“O Lord, make me to know my end and what is the measure of my days; let me know how fleeting I am!  Behold, you have made my days a few handbreadths, and my lifetime is as nothing before you.  Surely all mankind stands as a mere breath!  Surely a man goes about as a shadow!  Surely for nothing they are in turmoil; man heaps up wealth and does not know who will gather!  And now, O Lord, for what do I wait?  My hope is in you.” (Psalm 39:4-7)